How to be a Parent

July 2, 2015 — 8 Comments

Imagine living in a small, conservative town in North Mississippi when the Supreme Court ruling that allowed  same-sex couple to be married was announced. Now image being the mother of a gay son. What would you do? How would you react? Would you sit by quietly as you overhear awful, negative comments about homosexuals from your acquaintances and neighbors? Would you be afraid to speak up, fearing the overwhelming backlash of those that will argue against you? Or would you be like my mom who doesn’t take much shit from anyone (as you will see from her Facebook post pictured below)?

7-2-2015 8-53-02 AMIn addition to this, she has also made polite requests for complete strangers to shut the fuck up when she overhears them talking openly in public venues about “queers” and “fags” as if we are villains from a movie.

I am almost certain my father has done the same. He can easily be described as a stereotypical cowboy with stereotypical farmer friends. When news of my sexual orientation spread around their country hometown, how could he not have encountered any hateful remarks. He’s a quiet man but very stoic in his convictions. He has never said anything about my sexual orientation; however, he has spoken loudly through his actions (including them in Christmas with presents and hospitality, giving of my boyfriends as if they were a part of the family).

They have taught me (and continues to) teach me how to be strong and stand up for myself. They have taught me not to be ashamed of who I am. They have never not loved me. That’s what a parent does. I hope your parent can do the same for you.

8 responses to How to be a Parent


    My Dad was proud of me. My Mom is… different.
    You’ve got just simply great parents!!


    helleanorrigby July 2, 2015 at 9:49 pm

    Nope. Not tearing up. Not at all. Dry eyes all around. Now, please excuse me while I snatch up some tissues.
    Seriously, Mr. Cat Man, this ruling was gloriously wonderful, and I’m proud that the beautiful institution of marriage is available to the LBGTQ community.

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    That explains why you are so cool, Cary. Your mom is awesome and I admire her for speaking out. She has good reason to. But then, so does everybody.



    Since I had kids, I have this anger that appears when I discover someone has been bullying/teasing/etc. one of them. I just want to go kick some ass! Your mom is awesome!



    I have always had an admiration for her, Cary. From what you have shared with me, she was ALWAYS standing up for you. She was always telling you that you were NEVER different and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you and you should never think anything differently, and this was in a time and in a place where as we both know this was tough. You turned into a strong, loving, trustworthy, honest, hardworking, amazing person and that is partially to do with the fact that she’s an amazing mother. I’m proud to call you my friend. Parents shape us and she’s no exception. Hug her as much as you can.

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    Cary’s Mom—you rock!!!!!’


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