A New Chapter

April 6, 2016 — 29 Comments

Dear diareaders,

Welcome to a new chapter of The Reluctant Cat Owner’s Journal.

Due to a recent discovery, I feel that the tone and content of this website should change. So what are the changes?

  • The heading has been changed from “Dear Journal” to “Dear diareaders.” Diareaders is a portmanteau for “diary readers.” I chose it because I couldn’t do anything with “Journal Readers,” and “diareaders” made me giggle.
  • The tone of the content will be less abrasive towards any of my five cats (except maybe Elvis) and more supportive.

So why the change?

mrtiddles (2)A few days ago, Mr. Tiddles was taken to the vet because of a persistent cough. We expected a little cold, but instead, left with a diagnosis of restrictive cardiomyopathy. The heart disease caused the fluid in and around his lungs, hence the cough. When questioning how Mr. Tiddles could cover up signs of something this serious, the vet replied, “Cat are very good at hiding their ailments.”

After close to $1,000 for the diagnosis, there is now almost $200 per month in medication. This isn’t counting the cost of follow up testing such as blood work and additional echocardiograms to track his progress on the meds. Despite these costly hurdles, my husband and I will be with Mr. Tiddles every step of the way. This just means no out-of-town trips or splurges so that we can closely monitor our new budget.

So now my focus is to provide our first cat with the best quality of life I can offer until the day comes when he has to leave us. That way I will have the confidence to say that he departed knowing he was loved very much. After all, he deserves it for providing my husband and me with many years of stories, laughs, and devotiomrtiddles tucked inn.

For those that have read me for a while, this transition may seem odd. I just no longer have the heart to make comedy out of re-homing my cats or imagining how to prevent elevator butt pee with electrified chicken wire. But I appreciate you for sticking around during this humbling transformation.

Now go and spend time with your cat. They probably need a little exercise. Oh, and be sure your fur babies are checked by your vet regularly, because “cats are very good at hiding their ailments.”


29 responses to A New Chapter


    Thinking about you and Mr. Tiddles! ❤

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    Wait, what? You have feelings for your cats?
    Did not see that coming.

    Oh wait, I totally did. It’s as adorable as cats themselves, provided you don’t feed them after midnight apparently…

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    I am so, so sorry to hear this! It is devastating, I know. There was a book by Koontz I read years ago…in it one of the characters experienced the loss of her dog and here was her reflection on it:

    Because God is never cruel, there is a reason for all things. We must know the pain of loss; because if we never knew it, we would have no compassion for others, and we would become monsters of self-regard, creatures of unalloyed self-interest. The terrible pain of loss teaches humility to our prideful kind, has the power to soften uncaring hearts, to make a better person of a good one.

    We lost one of our cats a few years ago. He was an awesome cat, and we gave him a good, good life. You, your husband and Mr. Tiddles will go on my prayer list. And the cats know that you wouldn’t write about them if you didn’t love them, even when you complain about their bare buttholes on your food preparation surfaces.


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    Hey Cary so very sorry to hear about Mr. Tiddles! And I know you and Steven are worried, but I also know you’re both doing all you can to help Mr. Tiddles get well while also showering him with extra love, attention, petting and treats!! Be careful other kitties don’t get jealous and begin faking ailments so they too get special treatment. Just kidding of course.

    Just wanted to quickly say that I myself have lived with cardiomyopathy and congestive heart failure since 2004 (on medications of course) but I’ve not only carried on a normal life I also managed to give birth to a litter (twins) in 2010!! Thankfully Mr. Tiddles has no worries of this happening! ;-P I’m in no way qualified to compare human ailments and feline ailments at all….just hoping to maybe offer a little bit of comfort to you that with medication and care he should be totally fine….just can’t run with the big dogs anymore. This lesson I had a hard time accepting myself. Will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Brandy Rust

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    I knew all along that you love the kitties. And you will, when the times has come, be with your Mr. Tiddles and go the road with him to the very end. But for the moment you will provide him with the best time of his life!! You do have a loving and caring heart! ❤

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    I’m sorry to hear about Mr. Tiddles. I know you will do your best to make him as comfortable as possible. My Wampuss and Lucy Fur send head butts and kitty kisses. Tacy

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    ((HUGS)) to you and Mr. Tiddles.

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    Have you checked to see if the medications might be found outside of your vet at a lower cost? many meds that are used in cats and dogs are the same ones used by humans and can be purchased at walmart or other human pharmacies for far less. even buying online can reduce the cost. My cat’s thyroid pills were $20 at the vet, and $3 online.

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      Thanks for that! I’ll check around and see what’s available. I do know the heart meds are all by prescription only (and one is transdermal). I’ll take a look.



        You can still probably get them filled at CVS or Walgreens or Walmart cheaper. The vet can write you a prescription. My dog is on anti-seizure meds. They were going to be $50/mo through the vet. I get them at CVS for about $18/mo

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    I’m sorry to hear about Mr. Tiddles’ health issues. I understand your wanting to change things. However, that being said, I’m still not going to stop calling my cat Dumbass, Dumbass. She’s grow accustomed to the name and it would be too confusing if I started calling her Cinnamon (her real name) at this late stage of the game. She’s 15 and doesn’t like change.

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    And poor Mr Tiddles! ❤

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    That first photo needs to go on tummy rub Tuesday 😉

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    Poor Mr. Tiddles! Sending him much love and cuddles.

    I’ve always known you meant well, even when threatening re-homing. I’m lost on the whole elevator butt pee though. And electrified chicken wire no less!

    My advice? (Not that you asked for it, but whatevs) Stay with at least some comedy. I think Mr. Tiddles would want you to be happy and still have fun considering the situation. Or maybe not since cats really don’t give a f**k.

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    I bitch a lot about Walter Cronkat but I’d be heartbroken if he was sick. I will send healing thoughts to Mr Tiddles and hugs to you all.

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    Cary, I never once doubted your love for your cats, electrified chicken wire and all. I am sending a hug to you, Steven and Mr. Tiddles.

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    Oh, my dear. I am so sorry.
    I’ve been through this kind of thing several times and it never gets easier.
    I suspect that with your care Mr Tiddles will be with you for a good while longer.
    I’ve nursed several cats through long illnesses. For me the hard part is always knowing when to let go.That last plunge happens so fast and with so little warning…plus cats who are dying hide. I hope you can find a vet who will come to your house then, so Mr T can be at home.
    Talk to your vet’s office about help with the financial end of things. I have a friend who used to breed those hairless cats, and she got the meds online. She was in consultation with her vet, of course, but it saved them all those office visits.
    Meanwhile, enjoy the hell out of Mr T.

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    I look forward to more positive, loving stories. It will be a joy to read. Purrs and pettings to Tiddles.

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    Ahhh poor Mr.Tiddles! He is soo lucky to have you! Most people wouldnt go to such great lengths to ensure quality of life awww I see a lot of netflix and chill with Mr.Tiddles in your future!

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